NB – remember you don’t have to buy the books – just borrow them from the library! I’ve added links to them on Amazon just in case.
Getting to know yourself, and what might work for you
What we often find in life is that when we are struggling, its because we aren’t ‘congruent’ – our outer life (what we are doing), our inner-self (who we are / what we believe) and our physical wellness – are at odds with each other / are not in balance. This is a simple exercise to get you thinking about who you are and to help clarify what areas you aren’t clear on – so that you can work towards a more congruent life.
Try it: Answer the questions in this image, in any order. You can do this by making a list of bullet points, or draw a mind map – whatever works for you.
Are there any questions you struggled to answer?
Figuring out your Values
- Deciding what is most important in life – article and exercises from mindtools
- How to Find Work You Love, Ted Talk by Scott Dinsmore,
- Emotion cards, which values do you want to evoke in your life, see here
Working on your “why”
- Start with why – Ted Talk with Simon Sinek
- The Desire Map: a guide to creating goals with soul, Danielle La Porte, buy here.
- Emotional Agility, Chapter 6 ‘Walking Your Why’, Susan David, buy here.
- There’s more to life than being happy: TED talk by Emily Esfahani Smith
Working with Fear
- Define your fears as well as your goals: TED talk by Tim Ferriss
- The Power of Vulnerability, Ted Talk by Brenee Brown
- I was Afraid Of Change Until This Happened, Peter Dinklage – watch here
Working with goal setting
- Create a sense of vision for your future – My Life in Ten Years Time
- Identify goals across a range of life areas – Life Areas
- Maslow’s hierarchy of needs can help you to align your goals with your needs – Maslow
- Set new goals at the end of a year, by reflecting on the previous year (actually you can do this exercise at any time)- New Year Review
- Chase Jarvis chats to A.J. Jacobs on Gratitude – watch
When the struggle (to make progress) is real